Yes, I leave the house without makeup on, and I am not ugly. I hangout with my family (AND ACTUALLY ENJOY IT), Im not too cool to pretend they don't exist. I dance around the house like nobody's watching, Im no Pro but it brings me joy. I still listen to pop music. I love cats, that doesn't make me a crazy cat lady. I have problems that I can't hide, that doesn't make me insane. I am a hopeless romantic, I am not obsessive. I make mistakes. I do the cup song literally every time I see a plastic cup. I am not perfect, and I don't strive to be. I am not what the world defines as a "Popular kid". I am homeschooled and I love it because it works for me. I am Christian and I am not judgmental. I don't have an iPhone (anymore), I have a red slide phone and that doesn't make me "not cool". I spend my weekends watching netflix and eating ice cream, that doesn't mean I am anti-social; Its my way of recharging after a crazy week.
Guys, listen. You don't need to be defined by what the world says about how you need to act, or what you have to do or what you have to like to be accepted. Don't listen to the societal norms. I know you get these "Braveheart" speeches all of the time, and I am not here saying you have to listen to what I am saying, It isn't "My way or the highway". I am talking from experience. I scroll through Social Media thinking "Oh I wish I had those clothes!" or "Gosh, why does everyone else in the world seem to be perfect? They are going to parties, having lots of friends, listening to Bands I have never heard of, and I'm here not doing any of those things." Truth is, everyone leads a different life, life experiences look different for everyone. This is even true in families. I love my sister, but we are not very similar. At this point in her life, she has lots of friends, is always going somewhere and doing something. She gets up and goes to a school everyday, she has an iPhone, she is well liked, tall, beautiful, and really funny. I look at her life and want to be her so badly. I am so blinded by my desire to be somebody that I am not that I miss the point. God made everyone unique. That being said, nobody can be the exact same, but everyone is similar. We are all human. You think you are alone in feeling anxious or self conscious or whatever, YOU. ARE. NOT. Everyone shows it differently, people only post what they want you to see. They don't tell you that the same day they went to an amazing concert, had a photo session with all of their friends and posted all of the pictures, and went to dinner with their girlfriend/boyrfriend, that they cried themselves to sleep that night because they felt like a failure. They have fears, they have dreams of perfect situations that didn't happen. They don't share these things, but they are real. My point is, you don't wait until you are older to realize that all that popularity, all those trips to Forever 21 to get the latest trends, all the selfies, all the starving yourself to get that thigh gap, all the second guessing, it just isn't worth it. In the long run, all you need is to be confident in who you are and what you love. Be crazy, be passionate, be human, don't be afraid to mess up, an just love. The ones who really matter will accept you regardless.